Do You Really Need Fixing? Or Is It Just the Vase?
From Fixing to Creating: Breaking Free from the Illusion of Brokenness!
The Illusion of Brokenness: Who Told You to Doubt Yourself?
In a world driven by solutions, have you ever wondered: When did I start believing there was something wrong with me?
Take a moment. Did you truly feel broken, or was that belief planted—by society, media, or the ever-present noise of comparison?
We’ve unconsciously built a culture where problems are manufactured, just so solutions can be sold. And in the process, we’ve trapped ourselves in a cycle of doubt, constantly measuring ourselves against invisible benchmarks.
The question is: Who are you measuring yourself against, and why?
The Power of Words: A Broken Vase
Remember the scene in The Matrix when Neo meets the Oracle? She tells him not to worry about the vase. Confused, he turns to ask, “What vase?”—and in doing so, knocks it over. It shatters. He then asks her how she knew he’d break it. Her response?
“The real question is, would you have broken it if I hadn’t said anything?”
This is the essence of our reality. The moment someone plants the idea that you’re broken, you start living as if you are. The vase wasn’t broken—until the suggestion made it so. Similarly, you weren’t flawed or in need of fixing—until someone told you otherwise.
Think about it. Ever notice how easily we are swayed by others’ opinions? One moment, you're comfortable in your own skin, and the next, you’re convinced you need to change something because of an ad, a comment, or even a passing glance. You didn’t notice the “problem” until someone pointed it out. The question isn’t, “What’s wrong with me?” but “Why did I suddenly believe something was wrong?”
Do You Truly Need to Fix Yourself?
Here’s the truth: There is nothing to fix unless you believe there is.
When you spend your life analyzing, overthinking, and searching for what’s “wrong,” you remain stuck. Stuck in the past, stuck in comparison, stuck in a loop of self-doubt. But if you choose to shift your focus to what you want and how you’ll get there, life becomes a process of creation, not correction.
You Are Not the Child Anymore
Most of our insecurities stem from childhood, from moments where we weren’t told we were enough. We learned that being “good” or “worthy” meant meeting someone else’s expectations—whether it was a parent’s approval, a teacher’s praise, or society’s standards.
But here’s the thing: You’re no longer that child. You’re not waiting for permission to feel worthy. The standards you measure yourself against are yours to create.
Ask yourself:
What am I still carrying from childhood that no longer serves me?
What new story will I choose to write today?
You can choose to stop resurrecting the past by shifting your focus to the present. Instead of asking, “Why do I keep doing this?” try asking, “What am I choosing to do now, and why?”
Empowerment Is Simplicity
Empowerment doesn’t come from digging through endless layers of your past. It comes from deciding:
What do I want?
What choices will take me closer to that?
Will I keep choosing, again and again, until my new actions become my default?
You are not broken. You are evolving. And as you evolve, your desires may change—and that’s okay. What matters is that you are in the driver’s seat, consciously creating your life with every choice you make.
Is the Vase Really Broken?
The next time you feel the pull to “fix” yourself, pause. Ask yourself:
Is the vase really broken, or did someone just tell me to worry about it?
Am I measuring myself against a goal that is truly mine, or one that was sold to me?
What choices can I make now to align with what I want, instead of fixing what I was told was “wrong”?
Then, decide. Write down one desire you have today and one action you can take toward it. Repeat tomorrow. And the next day.
When you stop seeing yourself as something broken to be fixed, you reclaim your power. Life becomes about growth, discovery, and aligning with your deepest desires.
The question is no longer “What’s wrong with me?” but “What am I building, and how do I make it happen?”
You are not here to fix. You are here to create.
So, go ahead—create your masterpiece. Because the vase was never broken. It was always whole, just waiting for you to see it that way.
